Feared and respected in business, with compassion.
Loved in my personal life. Never want people to fear me. Not conducive to my way of life.
Is it better to be feared or to be loved?
thats the dilemma fear commands loyalty and respect, love does not but who wants to be feared all the time
I think it's better to be loved than feared but I do like when the one who loves me fears my angry ( look ) 😡 I think you should ask is it better to be liked or respected !! I'd be interested in reading responses to that question :)
An interesting question, but there's a compromise.
Many people boast of being god-fearing (and if they believe in an eternal being who will condemn them to eternal punishment for the heinous crime of not believing he exists, I can understand their fear) but get around the anomaly by saying, "But we love him. He's a good guy."
So God gets it both way. He is both feared and loved by those who believe in him.
Of course, on a personal level we may be neither feared nor loved. Most of the time I'm just *sob* tolerated. >:-/
Loved, definitely loved.
It's a complication!
"Loved" and "feared" has nothing to do with each other! They are two different aspects.
Love is a friendly emotion but feared is distance and stress.
However, sometimes they connected.
It totally depends on the aspect, place and it's moment, i don't think anybody feel bad about being loved, we all would enjoy it, to be loved by someone or huge number of people. But in some places you need to get to be feared. A little feared makes you to manage better (not always) just in some particular places due the situation.
And where it becomes connected ? Sometimes friends that we love each other and we're good friends but they just get the feeling to mess around and tease you up about something you don't really like! Now, i've had some of those friends! I'm kind of a person who express "can you please stop that it's bothering me" "Please don't continue, i'm getting angry" that friend would not care, it's a crazy level of teasing! Some get to be like that! Now they see my anger few times and when i say "i'm getting angry please don't do that" they would politely say "fine" instead of keep going. That's a positive side of being feared in the same time as being loved.
