When Do You Tell Your Family You Are Dying?

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Michelle New Zealand Profile
I will keep it from my family for as long as possible.  We are a very close family and I'm talking about my whole family from my uncles, ants my parents, sister, brother even my exs family.  We are all very close and I've lived through a lot of pain and heartache because of family dying from cancer.  Everyone suffers with you and they start to treat you like you are already dead.  I would tell them as soon as my systems gets real bad and I know that I won't be able to hide it from them anymore and in that way I know that they won't have to suffer to long before I finally dy.  I don't want a funeral.  They must cremate me because that is not so dramatic as being berried.
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I am with you on this, even to the point of not having a funeral and being cremated.
Ilovemysoldier Spc. Bewley Profile
I think the longer you wait to tell someone news like that the more it will hurt the loved ones I would tell them when I found out so I can spend as much time with them as possible! I sm s very caring person and I hope you are ok and you are just wondering about these questions! If not I will pray for you!!! I wish you the best!!!
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So far as I know, I am fine. But I am awaiting some test results, and I am not really sure I want to know. I will probably be around for quite some time... But when faced with the possibility, one gets to thinking.
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Dena May answered
It is only fair to family to be truthful and honest and tell them as soon as you find out. They have the right to know from the beginning and will give them longer to accept this. Also will be helpful to the person dying to have support and love once found out.
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Dena May
Dena May commented
I wouldn't think that family members would feel as if there were a shadow hanging over anything. They have the right to know as I would feel very betrayed if a family member kept that from me. Just my feelings however. Billzbub heard great things about you thru pat and had no idea till I just read comment above that you could be in for some bad news health wise. I will be praying for you also.
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It will likely turn out to be nothing much. But when one is waiting for news, one starts to contemplating "what if's".
Dena May
Dena May commented
You are human and I would be the first to admit that I was scared and like you said the what ifs are unsettling
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sandra engeman answered
I would not tell anyone. It would change the relationship with my family and friends if I did. I want them have the same personality that they did while I was living. If they do not like me now while I am living I don't want them to like me while I am dying. This is why I don't want a funeral or memorial service when I am gone. If you can't love me while I am living I sure as heck don't want you saying I love you when I am gone.

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